Posted by Karen in CO on 21:15 Jun 16
In Reply to: Well, she has told me she feels like she doesn't belong to the family. LOL! posted by LJ
Every family is different so please take everything you read as friendly girl chat over a steamy cup of coffee and not anything else.
my dd and I butt-heads frequently. Last time we did this over daily routines like this, I made a point to at sometime later in the week to take her out for tea and have a chat about how we can make this work. She really doesn't want to go go to bed without brushing her teeth and really doesn't want to stink. So we worked out a routine that worked for us. I was not "allowed" to repeat myself (which I hate doing) and she had consequences for not getting her nightly things done in a timely manner (which we defined by when I get her little sister ready for bed). btw the consequence that I got choose was cleaning one toilet the next morning for each thing not done by the time her sister was in bed.
I think taking her out for tea at a time we were stuck in conflict really helped our communication and gave us the ability to work things out. She still has the same bedtime and the same things to do before bedtime, just now I am not responsible for making her do it and she and I have a new way to hadle conflicts that will help us in the years to come.
Oh and for dinner. We never fight about that. DOn't wanna eat dinner? good. Don't eat dinner. Lots of people in the world go to bed hungry. One night won't kill her. Hunger is a great teacher.