Posted by abbeyej on 19:43 Jun 16
In Reply to: I'm not sure how that could work... posted by LJ
You can take everything else away until her attitude improves. She doesn't need books, toys, art supplies and clothes beyond what she's wearing and a single change (which she can wash herself, or wear dirty clothes). I'd start taking away the things that are important to her to start with.
She also loses any outings, classes, events, etc that missing will punish her more than you. (The ones that would punish you more to miss, she can spend her time sitting to the side and missing out on the parts she would usually enjoy.)
Good behavior can, after a few days (and I would make her wait at *least* two days before she can earn any of the things she has lost back) allow her to earn those privileges back.
I'm concerned that you feel so helpless about this with a 7yo. She's only going to get larger and more determined. And these aren't behaviors and attitudes I would want to deal with with a 15yo... So much easier at 7.